Gender differences

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Gender differences have been the main focus over the years when it comes to understanding male and female conflicts. There have been many assumptions for the roles of both genders. Men were always seen as the more powerful and dominant of the two genders, while women are perceived to be the passive and weak ones. Expectations of gender differences have impacted many relationships both friendship and romantically; in such ways as language, behavior and understanding but this is not the complete reason for conflict between the two.
Language impacts male and female relationships in a few different ways. There are a lot of stereotypes in language but it is important to note that stereotypes aren’t lies; they are just over-exaggerations. Language plays a part in placing a gap in male and female communications but it is not the only source of their conflict. Women are typically seen to be soft spoken and tend to express their feelings more freely than men do. Men tend to hold their feelings in and then explode. People would say this comes from childhood and the different ways that male and female were grown up to believe is their gender roles. A male gender role is seen to be the strong one which means that they show no emotions, in this way males are seen as women’s superhero, which is the image the world builds. While women are suppose to be vulnerable and very emotional, always needing rescuing. There is even language that is seen as more feminine than masculine. In a survey I have collected between some male and female I asked them the question do you believe that women are better listeners than men? And 100 percent of the females that I interviewed believed that this was true, that women are better listeners than men. 50 percent of the males that I interviewed believed that is was true. I also asked them the question, “Do you believe that because men do not discuss their feelings and tend to switch topics often, while women are known more to express their feelings and discuss a topic longer that this can affect the way they communicate with one another?” One hundred percent of the women believed that this was true and one hundred percent of the men believed that this was true as well. This shows that there is some form of gap in male and female language which can impact the relationship.

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Inner strength

I have experienced many things in my life; some people would never believe. There were times when i went through things that i thought i would never make it through.  There were times when all i would do was cry but the funny thing about those same things are that they made me stronger.
Strength comes from something within each and every person it has so little to do with your physical body and so much to do with your mind. If you can believe in something then you can achieve it. No matter what obstacles that you face in life you can always be something special. 
Strength is something buried deep within every body but many people’s minds are so highly cluttered with doubt that they can’t see the strength inside.  That is just the reason why we need a push to get started and put us in the right direction. That is exactly what our obstacles and struggles do; they help to bring out what is buried so deeply inside each and everyone of us.
Even though i been through a lot and even had some bad moments,  it was good for me to be afflicted with all that stuff because it made me into the woman that i am today. On this very day in the year 2014 i am so glad to say that i am proud of who i have become.
Now its time for each person to examine their lives and see what each one of their life experiences has done for them; how has it shaped the person that you are today?
When you look back on those memories smile because today you are much stronger than you were yesterday.

Jealousy

Jealousy can be defined as showing envy or possessive over something.
There are so many people show jealousy and through jealousy there can stream many different emotions. Jealousy can come from love as well as it can also come from hatred.  There are some people who love something or someone so much that they are extremely possessive over it that they don’t want anyone else to have it.
As well as the jealousy that comes out of hate because of envy towards someone.  Wanting what that other person has, feeling that you are more deserving of it. 
This shows how deep jealousy can be whether the person is on either side of the line whether through love or hate. So really is jealousy something bad?
It all matters from which side your looking at it from.

No settling

When you got something good hold on to it but be smart enough to know when you don’t. It’s about time people know their worth and start receiving only good things in their life and letting go of the garbage.
There is many people out there both girls and guys a like, who are settling in life. Whether it be with a spouse or even their job. It’s about time for people to stop settling and know that they deserve the best things in life.
If you have a man who cheats on you, disrespects you in anyway or even talks down to you; stop making excuses for him and think that you should stay because he will change. NO! let that man go, start showing some tough love. And that goes for guys out there too who got girls who don’t treat them right;  let them go. There is better out there for you.
If you have a job that you hate going to; one that doesn’t expand you in anyway shape or form, then guess what it’s time for an upgrade.  You should not fall into depression every morning when you wake up to go to work because guess what if you hate what you do it will eventually show in your work no matter how good at your job you are. There is a good job out there for everyone. If you keep pushing towards your goals and do what you really want to do in life then you will get there no matter how long you try. Just please stop settling.  Everyone deserves to be happy in every area of their lives but you got to fight for. There is so many opportunities out there in the world, it’s just for you to go out there and take it.

Finding what’s deep in you

Through out a person’s life; whether young or old, they are constantly seeking to find their place in the world.
Some people go throughout life uncertain of what career their suppose to be in or what to study in school.  Not sure of what they want from what they don’t want. Which is a normal thing because you never fully know yourself and what your capable of until you go through some hard situations.
Situations are what helps to shape you and teach you more about yourself.
Each person has the ability to be something great in life. No matter what situation a person faces in life they have the choice to change and become something great. A person’s past doesn’t define who they are or the person they choice to be.
For example many people doubt themselves and think so low of themselves but then when their back is against the wall and they are placed in the worst of situations; they then learn the fight that they have deep down within them.
That goes to show how everything we face in life whether good or bad is for a divine purpose. Each situation has its own lesson and its own impact in shaping your life. It is just for you to choose whether the impact will be a good or bad one; will it make or break you. You decide!

Definition of sexy

For many years the media has displayed certain traits and a typical look of what makes a woman appealing and sexy. These traits have affected how many women all over the world have seen themselves. For example Barbie was designed as a perfect model of a woman; which is the image that is displayed in every child’s head. She was shaped to be something that every little girl looks up to because barbie’s life was perfect. She lives the most luxurious life and this image is implanted in many little girls heads of what their lives should look like and what is necessary to make a person’s life happy.
Barbie is never displayed as poor or average,  she lives the most extravagant life.
Even though many girls who play with her can never relate to her; she still displays this iconic image of women that is tattooed on our brains for life.
There is many young girls who have struggled with self-esteem and have been teased because they dont fall into the category of what is suppose to be sexy but in my books there is no specific look that is sexy. Sexy comes in many shapes, colours and sizes. Everyone in their own way is sexy no matter what they look like. So embrace who you are and think nothing less of yourself. You are great, you are beautiful, you are the definition of sexy!

Wounded beyond measures

I have been writing for what seems like for ever but have never really took my work serious until now.
My first piece of writing that took me a while to actually complete runs so dear to my heart. It’s called wounded beyond measures which has to deal with relationships; how both men and women bring baggage from their past into something that they want to last. How can we expect something to last if we are so heavily guarded and won’t let each other in?
Wounded beyond measures speaks of both sides of a story how not only does a woman come into a relationship wounded but so does a man.
A woman could have been abused, lied to or cheated on in the past and then bring those same things into her most recent relationship and take out all her pain on a man who did nothing to her but who now has to bare the mistakes that the men in her past made.
A man could have went through the same things with females but takes a different approach to relationships which could make him not trust women or not want to open up.
Wounded beyond measures touches on all these topics and how they can hinder us from receiving the best in life.

Being a man

The love that i have for writing runs deep. I wake up daily to a different topic on my mind. Today’s topic at hand is the beauty of a man.
There are so many men in the world today that hide their deepest feelings.  It all started with them as young boys falling off their bike scraping their knees and the first thing they are told is big boys don’t cry.
Going through life constantly hearing that “big boys don’t cry” or “man up” how can we ever expect them to fully be in touch with their feelings?
This is telling a boy that to show your feelings is not being a man but instead a woman. This sufficates men forcing them to go through life detached from their feelings and bottling everything up. Then we turn around and blame men when they don’t show love the way we woman tend to and in reality it’s not the man’s fault but the society that shaped them.
Is it true that crying or showing emotions is not the man thing to do? …No it’s not true. In my opinion a real man is not afraid to cry or to show his feelings.  It’s called being human.

loving yourself

The first step to being successful in life is to first and foremost love yourself.  Once you love yourself you will not settle in life but strive to receive what you truly deserve. Never settle in love just be patient for the right person who will embrace the really you and treat you like royalty.  Never settle in a job and be miserable all your life, keep pressing on to be whatever you want to be. You can be whatever you want to be and achieve the best things in life, don’t second guess yourself.  Go out and be the best you that you can be and watch life take its course.