Not every Man can be considered a perfect gentleman. Being a gentleman is a skill that some men perfect while others ignore. A perfect man is chivalrous and courteous; they know how to treat a woman and above all how to show respect to all. When they are faced with a certain situation that causes for unruly behavior; they know how to handle it in a exceptional manner.
When looking at chivalrous behavior we can look back in history and see that it began during Medieval Times with Knights who possessed qualities such as honor and justice. They were also expected to show courteous behavior especially toward women. The way I view things is that no matter how independent I am as a woman chivalrous habits are always a winner for me. There is just something that is so beautiful and admirable about a man who can portray such behaviors I guess it mainly has to do with the whole situation of chivalry is not common no more; there are just less and less men who display such behavior. Now when a woman meets a man we are just automatically expecting the worst behavior possible, our expectations in men as dwindled down to almost nothing but when they do behave like perfect gentlemen it is honestly surprising and leads us (women) to believe that it is because they want something.
I have over heard many woman criticize and state that they don’t want any man to do anything nice for them because it is not true to their hearts. That it is only done with hidden motives. It is sad that women already have these expectations of a bad outcome but there has been many experiences that these ladies have had to make these assumptions true. Which lead women to come to the conclusion that chivalry is dead but I look at it differently. To me chivalry is not dead but it is more uncommon because there are men out there who act like perfect gentlemen without any expectations to get anything in return.
Some habits that a number of women that I have talk to would consider to be habits of a perfect gentlemen are as follows; opening doors, sitting through girly movies, family bonding, sending flowers, and helping carry bags.
lets take a deeper looking into one of these habits to have a better understanding of what women are talking about. When a woman talks about a man opening the doors they stated that this was one thing they wish guys still did above the rest. Whether it be the car door or just the front door to a restaurant or the movie theater women see this as such an admirable trait. Yes we women are more than capable of opening our own doors but it’s all about the effort and respect. A guy that takes the time to open the door for you just shows a different ounce of respect that he has towards you. Some women say the worst possible experience that they have had was when walking behind a man into a restaurant and he would just release the door which in turn would hit them on the shoulder, hand or in worst cases the face. Which is a horrible start to the night.
Give and take some of these habits would be nice because it is always just the simple things that matter because no woman needs to be injured on the first date because honestly guys some of these doors are heavy like a rock. It doesn’t hurt to help a woman out or to sit through a movie that she wants to watch. Let use be fair to each other; ladies watch movies they don’t want to watch so a guy should in turn do the same. It is all about compromising; we are all adults we know what the word means. Actions speak way louder than words enough with saying your a nice guy and a perfect gentleman and more acting like it.
I personally don’t think chivalry is dead because I have seen some guys perform it!
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