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Gender differences

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Gender differences have been the main focus over the years when it comes to understanding male and female conflicts. There have been many assumptions for the roles of both genders. Men were always seen as the more powerful and dominant of the two genders, while women are perceived to be the passive and weak ones. Expectations of gender differences have impacted many relationships both friendship and romantically; in such ways as language, behavior and understanding but this is not the complete reason for conflict between the two.
Language impacts male and female relationships in a few different ways. There are a lot of stereotypes in language but it is important to note that stereotypes aren’t lies; they are just over-exaggerations. Language plays a part in placing a gap in male and female communications but it is not the only source of their conflict. Women are typically seen to be soft spoken and tend to express their feelings more freely than men do. Men tend to hold their feelings in and then explode. People would say this comes from childhood and the different ways that male and female were grown up to believe is their gender roles. A male gender role is seen to be the strong one which means that they show no emotions, in this way males are seen as women’s superhero, which is the image the world builds. While women are suppose to be vulnerable and very emotional, always needing rescuing. There is even language that is seen as more feminine than masculine. In a survey I have collected between some male and female I asked them the question do you believe that women are better listeners than men? And 100 percent of the females that I interviewed believed that this was true, that women are better listeners than men. 50 percent of the males that I interviewed believed that is was true. I also asked them the question, “Do you believe that because men do not discuss their feelings and tend to switch topics often, while women are known more to express their feelings and discuss a topic longer that this can affect the way they communicate with one another?” One hundred percent of the women believed that this was true and one hundred percent of the men believed that this was true as well. This shows that there is some form of gap in male and female language which can impact the relationship.

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Being a man

The love that i have for writing runs deep. I wake up daily to a different topic on my mind. Today’s topic at hand is the beauty of a man.
There are so many men in the world today that hide their deepest feelings.  It all started with them as young boys falling off their bike scraping their knees and the first thing they are told is big boys don’t cry.
Going through life constantly hearing that “big boys don’t cry” or “man up” how can we ever expect them to fully be in touch with their feelings?
This is telling a boy that to show your feelings is not being a man but instead a woman. This sufficates men forcing them to go through life detached from their feelings and bottling everything up. Then we turn around and blame men when they don’t show love the way we woman tend to and in reality it’s not the man’s fault but the society that shaped them.
Is it true that crying or showing emotions is not the man thing to do? …No it’s not true. In my opinion a real man is not afraid to cry or to show his feelings.  It’s called being human.