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Deep Waters of Pain!


So many people have dipped their feet into the ever so deep waters of pain.  Pain is that cold water that brings shock to your body which makes you want to retreat and run back to shore.
I have experience that shock numerous amount of times. I have felt those chills running through my body and no matter how much I tried to escape; it was like a tide that carried me even deeper.
I have experienced pain so many times and each time was never less painful than the first. My heart aches each time and my body shivers with the weight of it all. So many times I have prayed that I could never again experience such a thing but I have learned time after time that the pain has made me stronger. There will be a day that the Lord will replace all the pain with joy.
So many people believe that pain is something weak but in all honesty it is not. A person needs some serious strength to make it through any degree of heartache and pain. Pain teaches you to appreciate joy. Pain prepares you for your destiny, it is a necessary pathway to joy. If you allow it to open your eyes to the point when joy comes knocking at your door and embraces you in its warmth you will not turn it away. Then you will be able to smile and say that it was good that you were afflicted. For if it was not for the affliction then you would never know how to treasure such joy.
Romans 8:18 “For I reckon that the suffering of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”
If you hold on through this pain then before you know it, things will turn around for your good.


Love vs. Hate


1 Corinthians 13:4 -7: 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

I think this scripture summarizes love the best. Love is a firm foundation that should not easily crumble beneath us. Love should be something automatic but yet some people would prefer to turn to hate. In the 21st Century I hear people throw around the word hate so effortless and i just don’t understand why. Why is it so easy for people to hate one another for every little thing; if someone looks different than you do then people find it a reason to hate them. If someone does you wrong the first emotion it drives in us is hatred.
I personally believe that it takes a bigger person to love someone regardless of the way they look or whatever pain the put you through. What the world needs to understand is that there is power in love; love has the ability to turn a bad situation around into something good. When someone does you wrong and you can show them that your love is bigger than what they have done to you then you shock them through them off because many people never see that coming. 
It is just too easy for people to hate one another and hold each other up in our hearts; instead we should challenge ourselves to love one another. Yes it is a challenge but puts less weight down on your heart.
Love is a bonding agent which has no limitations. Let’s use love to bind us together instead of giving into hate and allowing it to destroy us!
I have seen families divided over stupid little things that they could have solved in a different way instead of not seeing or talking to each other for years and when weddings or family engagements come along they can barely say hi to one another but instead greet each other like strangers.
Me personally I don’t understand how
people can inconvenience themselves with hatred and such anger I think it is exhausting and it just drains the life out of you. I don’t have time for that; I rather be locked up in a room with someone I am having a problem with and handle it right there and then instead of carrying something around with me in my heart for years. We settle it there and be done with it. Call it aggressive love if you may but I  prefer that to the baggage of hatred any day.
Hatred is a baggage that will weigh you down and darken you so why carry it around.  There is more to life than that!

Another year filled with new experiences

Another great year has come to an end. No more writing 2014 now it is time to get us to writing 2015.  It always takes awhile before ever getting use to writing a new year, we always slip and accidentally write the previous year.
Words can not explain how blessed I feel to make it into a new beautiful year. God has been so good in 2014 and I know he will be with me throughout the new year of 2015. 2014 was a great year filled with so much good and bad but one thing for sure it was very rewarding.  Now as we prepare ourselves for whatever 2015 has in store for us , one thing we know for sure is that we will have bad days and good days but with every day there will be new experiences and with new experiences there will be new lessons and therefore new stories to share.
2015 will be all you want it to be because you are the one who makes a year special.
Happy new year everyone and I wish you all a prosperous 2015!

Christmas love

Christmas is my favorite time of year. I just love the warmth that Christmas time brings. The time when we celebrate the first gift that was given which is Jesus and in turn we spread the love to others by giving a gift to the special people in our lives.
There is just something so different about Christmas time thst is so selfless. It is one time of year when we think about others. Today i was very surprised to see a total stranger sharing a story with me about their Christmas plans and just what Christmas means to me; at the end of the conversation the person smiled and wished me a merry Christmas.
To me this was surprising because normally when people are busy shopping they are so caught up in themselves that they don’t even notice you, even if them bump into you they barely say a word to you much less have a conversation. It just goes to show how warm Christmas is that in most people it brings out the best in them. This is just another thing to add to my long  list of reasons on why i love Christmas so much.
For me Christmas has so little to do with gifts but so much to do with love. Love that we share to both family and friends;  which unites us and allows us to take the time out of our busy lives to share a special day with one another.
Thank God for the love that glows so bright at Christmas time.

There is a time to be both selfish and selfless

There is a thin line between being selfish and selfless that is so hard not to cross once or twice in our lives.
Everyone has faced the hard choice of whether to choose ourselves or other people. I honestly believe it is one of the hardest choices that a person ever has to make because in reality there are people out there who use and abuse kindness.
Being selfless is taking yourself out of the equation and showing concern for others, without any hidden benefits for ourselves. For me I have been very selfless throughout the years always helping others and bending backwards for people. There is a lesson in that though is that you have to be very careful there are selfish people out there who concern only for themselves and will use your selfless behavior as a chance to walk right over you.
Being selfish is being concerned about ourselves. Many people would think it is so wrong to be selfish which I would honestly disagree with because I believe that there is a time in our lives that we have to be selfish. We have to stop sometimes and focus on ourselves and make ourselves happy. Yes be selfish at least once a week and take time out for yourself because in reality no one will care about your own happiness as much as you will. So spend a day on yourself and look out for you and stop putting yourself on a backburner for other people all the time. Don’t get me wrong I’m not telling you to forget about helping other people because that is just wrong. I personally love helping people there is so much joy in it but all I am saying is that in all your helping don’t forget about helping yourself sometimes. Taking some “ME” time.
Remember you can’t save someone if you need saving yourself.

Less privacy; the more popularity

The more technology, is the less privacy we have. Our private lives have changed all because of new technologies. There is no such thing as privacy anymore because everyone wants to display their lives to the world. It is like our own personal way to feel famous.  The more people that few our pictures and posts over the internet equals to instant popularity. If our posts or pictures are not viewed or liked then some feel the need to delete them.
There is no longer any want for privacy in the younger generation.  The idea of privacy that we older generation once had has now seemed to disappear for the younger people coming up now.
Everything is shared on Facebook, Twitter and instagram.  Our lives have become less private as technology continues to advance.  It is now the norm to share everything with the world it sort of gives us the sense of popularity.  

Inner strength

I have experienced many things in my life; some people would never believe. There were times when i went through things that i thought i would never make it through.  There were times when all i would do was cry but the funny thing about those same things are that they made me stronger.
Strength comes from something within each and every person it has so little to do with your physical body and so much to do with your mind. If you can believe in something then you can achieve it. No matter what obstacles that you face in life you can always be something special. 
Strength is something buried deep within every body but many people’s minds are so highly cluttered with doubt that they can’t see the strength inside.  That is just the reason why we need a push to get started and put us in the right direction. That is exactly what our obstacles and struggles do; they help to bring out what is buried so deeply inside each and everyone of us.
Even though i been through a lot and even had some bad moments,  it was good for me to be afflicted with all that stuff because it made me into the woman that i am today. On this very day in the year 2014 i am so glad to say that i am proud of who i have become.
Now its time for each person to examine their lives and see what each one of their life experiences has done for them; how has it shaped the person that you are today?
When you look back on those memories smile because today you are much stronger than you were yesterday.


Jealousy can be defined as showing envy or possessive over something.
There are so many people show jealousy and through jealousy there can stream many different emotions. Jealousy can come from love as well as it can also come from hatred.  There are some people who love something or someone so much that they are extremely possessive over it that they don’t want anyone else to have it.
As well as the jealousy that comes out of hate because of envy towards someone.  Wanting what that other person has, feeling that you are more deserving of it. 
This shows how deep jealousy can be whether the person is on either side of the line whether through love or hate. So really is jealousy something bad?
It all matters from which side your looking at it from.

No settling

When you got something good hold on to it but be smart enough to know when you don’t. It’s about time people know their worth and start receiving only good things in their life and letting go of the garbage.
There is many people out there both girls and guys a like, who are settling in life. Whether it be with a spouse or even their job. It’s about time for people to stop settling and know that they deserve the best things in life.
If you have a man who cheats on you, disrespects you in anyway or even talks down to you; stop making excuses for him and think that you should stay because he will change. NO! let that man go, start showing some tough love. And that goes for guys out there too who got girls who don’t treat them right;  let them go. There is better out there for you.
If you have a job that you hate going to; one that doesn’t expand you in anyway shape or form, then guess what it’s time for an upgrade.  You should not fall into depression every morning when you wake up to go to work because guess what if you hate what you do it will eventually show in your work no matter how good at your job you are. There is a good job out there for everyone. If you keep pushing towards your goals and do what you really want to do in life then you will get there no matter how long you try. Just please stop settling.  Everyone deserves to be happy in every area of their lives but you got to fight for. There is so many opportunities out there in the world, it’s just for you to go out there and take it.

Finding what’s deep in you

Through out a person’s life; whether young or old, they are constantly seeking to find their place in the world.
Some people go throughout life uncertain of what career their suppose to be in or what to study in school.  Not sure of what they want from what they don’t want. Which is a normal thing because you never fully know yourself and what your capable of until you go through some hard situations.
Situations are what helps to shape you and teach you more about yourself.
Each person has the ability to be something great in life. No matter what situation a person faces in life they have the choice to change and become something great. A person’s past doesn’t define who they are or the person they choice to be.
For example many people doubt themselves and think so low of themselves but then when their back is against the wall and they are placed in the worst of situations; they then learn the fight that they have deep down within them.
That goes to show how everything we face in life whether good or bad is for a divine purpose. Each situation has its own lesson and its own impact in shaping your life. It is just for you to choose whether the impact will be a good or bad one; will it make or break you. You decide!