Monthly Archives: December 2014

Christmas love

Christmas is my favorite time of year. I just love the warmth that Christmas time brings. The time when we celebrate the first gift that was given which is Jesus and in turn we spread the love to others by giving a gift to the special people in our lives.
There is just something so different about Christmas time thst is so selfless. It is one time of year when we think about others. Today i was very surprised to see a total stranger sharing a story with me about their Christmas plans and just what Christmas means to me; at the end of the conversation the person smiled and wished me a merry Christmas.
To me this was surprising because normally when people are busy shopping they are so caught up in themselves that they don’t even notice you, even if them bump into you they barely say a word to you much less have a conversation. It just goes to show how warm Christmas is that in most people it brings out the best in them. This is just another thing to add to my long  list of reasons on why i love Christmas so much.
For me Christmas has so little to do with gifts but so much to do with love. Love that we share to both family and friends;  which unites us and allows us to take the time out of our busy lives to share a special day with one another.
Thank God for the love that glows so bright at Christmas time.

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There is a time to be both selfish and selfless

There is a thin line between being selfish and selfless that is so hard not to cross once or twice in our lives.
Everyone has faced the hard choice of whether to choose ourselves or other people. I honestly believe it is one of the hardest choices that a person ever has to make because in reality there are people out there who use and abuse kindness.
Being selfless is taking yourself out of the equation and showing concern for others, without any hidden benefits for ourselves. For me I have been very selfless throughout the years always helping others and bending backwards for people. There is a lesson in that though is that you have to be very careful there are selfish people out there who concern only for themselves and will use your selfless behavior as a chance to walk right over you.
Being selfish is being concerned about ourselves. Many people would think it is so wrong to be selfish which I would honestly disagree with because I believe that there is a time in our lives that we have to be selfish. We have to stop sometimes and focus on ourselves and make ourselves happy. Yes be selfish at least once a week and take time out for yourself because in reality no one will care about your own happiness as much as you will. So spend a day on yourself and look out for you and stop putting yourself on a backburner for other people all the time. Don’t get me wrong I’m not telling you to forget about helping other people because that is just wrong. I personally love helping people there is so much joy in it but all I am saying is that in all your helping don’t forget about helping yourself sometimes. Taking some “ME” time.
Remember you can’t save someone if you need saving yourself.

Less privacy; the more popularity

The more technology, is the less privacy we have. Our private lives have changed all because of new technologies. There is no such thing as privacy anymore because everyone wants to display their lives to the world. It is like our own personal way to feel famous.  The more people that few our pictures and posts over the internet equals to instant popularity. If our posts or pictures are not viewed or liked then some feel the need to delete them.
There is no longer any want for privacy in the younger generation.  The idea of privacy that we older generation once had has now seemed to disappear for the younger people coming up now.
Everything is shared on Facebook, Twitter and instagram.  Our lives have become less private as technology continues to advance.  It is now the norm to share everything with the world it sort of gives us the sense of popularity.  

Gender differences

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Gender differences have been the main focus over the years when it comes to understanding male and female conflicts. There have been many assumptions for the roles of both genders. Men were always seen as the more powerful and dominant of the two genders, while women are perceived to be the passive and weak ones. Expectations of gender differences have impacted many relationships both friendship and romantically; in such ways as language, behavior and understanding but this is not the complete reason for conflict between the two.
Language impacts male and female relationships in a few different ways. There are a lot of stereotypes in language but it is important to note that stereotypes aren’t lies; they are just over-exaggerations. Language plays a part in placing a gap in male and female communications but it is not the only source of their conflict. Women are typically seen to be soft spoken and tend to express their feelings more freely than men do. Men tend to hold their feelings in and then explode. People would say this comes from childhood and the different ways that male and female were grown up to believe is their gender roles. A male gender role is seen to be the strong one which means that they show no emotions, in this way males are seen as women’s superhero, which is the image the world builds. While women are suppose to be vulnerable and very emotional, always needing rescuing. There is even language that is seen as more feminine than masculine. In a survey I have collected between some male and female I asked them the question do you believe that women are better listeners than men? And 100 percent of the females that I interviewed believed that this was true, that women are better listeners than men. 50 percent of the males that I interviewed believed that is was true. I also asked them the question, “Do you believe that because men do not discuss their feelings and tend to switch topics often, while women are known more to express their feelings and discuss a topic longer that this can affect the way they communicate with one another?” One hundred percent of the women believed that this was true and one hundred percent of the men believed that this was true as well. This shows that there is some form of gap in male and female language which can impact the relationship.

Inner strength

I have experienced many things in my life; some people would never believe. There were times when i went through things that i thought i would never make it through.  There were times when all i would do was cry but the funny thing about those same things are that they made me stronger.
Strength comes from something within each and every person it has so little to do with your physical body and so much to do with your mind. If you can believe in something then you can achieve it. No matter what obstacles that you face in life you can always be something special. 
Strength is something buried deep within every body but many people’s minds are so highly cluttered with doubt that they can’t see the strength inside.  That is just the reason why we need a push to get started and put us in the right direction. That is exactly what our obstacles and struggles do; they help to bring out what is buried so deeply inside each and everyone of us.
Even though i been through a lot and even had some bad moments,  it was good for me to be afflicted with all that stuff because it made me into the woman that i am today. On this very day in the year 2014 i am so glad to say that i am proud of who i have become.
Now its time for each person to examine their lives and see what each one of their life experiences has done for them; how has it shaped the person that you are today?
When you look back on those memories smile because today you are much stronger than you were yesterday.

Jealousy

Jealousy can be defined as showing envy or possessive over something.
There are so many people show jealousy and through jealousy there can stream many different emotions. Jealousy can come from love as well as it can also come from hatred.  There are some people who love something or someone so much that they are extremely possessive over it that they don’t want anyone else to have it.
As well as the jealousy that comes out of hate because of envy towards someone.  Wanting what that other person has, feeling that you are more deserving of it. 
This shows how deep jealousy can be whether the person is on either side of the line whether through love or hate. So really is jealousy something bad?
It all matters from which side your looking at it from.

No settling

When you got something good hold on to it but be smart enough to know when you don’t. It’s about time people know their worth and start receiving only good things in their life and letting go of the garbage.
There is many people out there both girls and guys a like, who are settling in life. Whether it be with a spouse or even their job. It’s about time for people to stop settling and know that they deserve the best things in life.
If you have a man who cheats on you, disrespects you in anyway or even talks down to you; stop making excuses for him and think that you should stay because he will change. NO! let that man go, start showing some tough love. And that goes for guys out there too who got girls who don’t treat them right;  let them go. There is better out there for you.
If you have a job that you hate going to; one that doesn’t expand you in anyway shape or form, then guess what it’s time for an upgrade.  You should not fall into depression every morning when you wake up to go to work because guess what if you hate what you do it will eventually show in your work no matter how good at your job you are. There is a good job out there for everyone. If you keep pushing towards your goals and do what you really want to do in life then you will get there no matter how long you try. Just please stop settling.  Everyone deserves to be happy in every area of their lives but you got to fight for. There is so many opportunities out there in the world, it’s just for you to go out there and take it.